Today is K’s 18th birthday. Usually this is a special time for boys. They become adults. They have a big party, tons of friends, lots of music, lots of food. K’s birthdays have always been completely different. I mean different from other people’s, his birthdays are all exactly the same.
Gifts: Just like Christmas, K’s birthday has no significance to him. As far as he is concerned, it’s a regular day but his favourite toy works and he has a few new ones. It works because we buy him a new one every time. He only has a few that we KNOW for sure he likes, so why mess with a good thing? Any new toys he gets from grandparents, uncles, aunts, etc usually end up in his toy box. Very seldom will he play with the new toys, but when he does he will either like it or hate it. It’s all trial and error with K.
Parties: K doesn’t like having a lot of people around. We avoid going to crowded places as much as possible to avoid him getting upset. Anytime we have people over he will sit on the landing of the stairs; his “perch”, and play quietly until they leave. If we are having family over for holidays it is almost the same, except he will interact more, as they are familiar to him. And they are all used to him. Recently I had to explain K to my 5 year old niece, as he had grabbed some chips from her hand and hurt her. I explained it to her as best I could, but she doesn’t go near him anymore. Not many of the children interact with him. I think he can come off as scary sometimes. On his birthday we usually have the family over. This would be my side. My grandmother, mother, bro, sis, bro in law, sis in law and a niece and nephew. They came today. We had a great time. S sat in on the conversation and cracked a few jokes. He is only a year and a half older than K! A part of me was screaming “Why can’t K sit and chat with us too?” K sat on his perch, playing with his “now working” toy. He got new toys and clothes. No interest in the puzzle yet, but I know he likes them.
Singing: Aunt made a cake, but we didn’t sing. We spoke “Happy Birthday to you”. My brother in law joked that we were doing the birthday song William Shatner style! Everyone usually leaves by 8 because that is when K has his bath and gets ready for bed.
It’s almost 10 pm. B is playing video games, S is spending time with his girlfriend, and K is in bed, fast asleep. So happy he has his favourite soft singing puppy back.
Sleep well angel. Happy Birthday.