This is probably going to be one of my most controversial blogs. I am sure I will get arguments from both sides and I actually hope I do because I would really love to hear what everyone thinks of the subject.
There was a news article shared with me by one of the other parents I talk to who has a child with DS. It was about a couple who sued a hospital because they were told their child did not have Down Syndrome, but she was born with it. They were upset that they were lied to and that they were not significantly prepared to raise a child with Downs. They were awarded over $2 million.
This raises many questions for me. One, does this mean they regret the birth of their beautiful daughter? Two, if they did know beforehand would they have terminated the pregnancy? Three, is having a child with Down Syndrome such a horrible thing? I don’t think so.
I asked hubby what his view on this was and he mentioned that I had wished I had known for sure beforehand so I would have been more prepared. That’s true, but not because I would have terminated the pregnancy but because I would have read more about it. He said if he was told his child would be healthy and it wasn’t he would probably have done the same thing. I was shocked but his opinion is his own. I know he loves K and would never change him for the world. But his stance on this issue got me thinking.
If I had known with absolute certainty that K would be born with Downs I would have read up on it. I would have been prepared as much as possible. But you can never be completely prepared when you have a child with SNs! You have to expect the unexpected. But there are some people who don’t think they could handle raising a child like K.
But to sue the hospital that gave you the wrong results? That is never something I would do. And I will bet my bottom dollar that many parents feel the same way as I do. But I’m not naïve. I know some parents will see it from the other point of view.
Please leave me a comment about your thoughts on this subject. I would love to know where my readers stand.